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Saturday, September 6, 2014

Wrap-up for Introduction to the book of Daniel

Welcome Back Ladies, I am Ann Sanger your Teaching Director and at this time I will deliver a wrap-up or teaching for a few minutes.  PRAY Thank you Father for your love and mercy and grace that is new every morning. Bless these women who came out tonight. Speak through me. Put a guard at my lips and bless my words I pray in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ.
Ladies most of remember Daniel from our childrens bible story of Daniels miraculous rescue from the lions den. We even had a little song:

Daniel, echo Daniel, Daniel, echo Daniel in the li, li, lions
Daniel, echo Daniel, Daniel, echo Daniel in the li, li, lions
Daniel, echo Daniel, Daniel, echo Daniel in the li, li, lions
Daniel in the lions, echo Daniel in the lions, Daniel in the lion’s den.
There are Three Points to my Introduction
      Historical Background
      Daniel the Book
      Daniel the Man
Our Theme: God is in Control

  • Historical Background


How in the world did Israel end up in this mess? What happened to God1s covenant with Abraham? Joshua led the Israelites into the Promised Land and grew into an independent nation with their own kings and mighty armies. In one word-"disobedience. After the reign of Solomon, the twelve tribes were divided into the northern kingdom ISRAEL and the southern kingdom JUDAH. The Assyrians carried ISRAEL INTO captivity in 722 BC. Then between 605 and 586 be the southern kingdom went into captivity under their famous leader Nebuchadnezzar. Only two tribes represent last remnant of God’s people. Throughout the book we will continue to call God's people Israel.
  • Daniel the Book:

The book of Daniel is unlike other books in the Old Testament.
Disputes over author and date: Though controversial and the target of non­ Christians, I refuse to enter the banter of when it was written and who wrote it. I believe Author is Daniel (12:4) and it was written 537 B.C.

Jesus references Daniel in Matthew 24:15 and that is all the proof I need.

15 “So when you see the abomination of desolation spoken of by the prophet Daniel, standing in the holy place (let the reader understand), 

Jesus said it and I believe it!

The Jewish Bible divided in 3 groups the Law; The Prophets; Writings. Psalms, Proverbs, Esther, is also listed in Writings along with Daniel.

The first half of the book is largely historical telling of Daniel and his friends' life as they were raised in the temple in Babylon groomed in the culture and language of their capturers. His message was as much to the Gentile world as it was to the Jews.

Second half Daniel’s prophecies used mysterious symbols and strange images. Daniel wrote the half of his book in Hebrew as encouragement for the Jews still in Jerusalem. But he also wrote chapter in Aramaic, a language common to the Gentiles.

God told Daniel to seal up the scrolls until the end of time. Not until the Book of Revelation was one worthy to open the seven seals on the scroll.

Revelation 5:1"Then I saw in the right hand of him who sat on the throne a scroll with writing on both sides and sealed with seven seals."

  • Daniel the Man


      Ezekiel living around the same time as Daniel but he was older and lived on Jewish soil. He delivered messages from God to the Jewish people. Jeremiah also a contemporary tells us God used Nebuchadnezzar teach Israel He can use a pagan king to discipline His people.
      In the first group captured 14-15 yrs. old but he was not there when the temple was destroyed. Daniel and his friends were not treated as slaves but offered food from the King's table and educated in the palace.
      Diplomatic in refusing the rich food yet bold enough to ask as you will study in Chapter 1.
      Never wavered in his faithfulness even when his life is threatened.
      Daniel never preached a sermon but he Glorified God with his visions. Daniel rose to a position where he was comfort ble in the presence of kings.
      Lived the entire 70 years God allowed Judah' s' captivity
      Daniel lived most of his 80+ years under several different kings and rulers.
      Daniel living in a pagan land offered luxury and power yet maintained his integrity and devotion to God.

Would you choose to be a Daniel and let God be in Control of your life?

Prepare for next week. SHOW BOOK

Lesson 1-your commentary God is in Control is wonderful and explains the history and captivity of the children of Israel. It has wonderful clues to fact we may have missed. My suggestion is to read your commentary as soon as possible: over the week-end. Those 2-3 questions at the end apply to my wrap up and the commentary . It is easier to answer while it is fresh in your mind.
Lesson 2-You will read Daniel chapter 1 and answer questions each day. Work through page 9.

Be wary of using study bibles and commentaries for your answers. A commentary is only one person's understanding. Just like my teaching is one woman's understanding. We want you to spend time with God and allow his Holy Spirit to guide you to the truth.

PRAYER
Dear Father,

We know You have a message for those in this world living in sorrow and pain. Use us to bring the message through the hands, feet, and mouth of Your followers. Lord, You desire us to be Your light in this dark world bringing the kind of encouragement Daniel taught us. Only God can heal people weary of sin and suffering when we look to Him.


Welcome to CBS Women's Evening Class

Welcome to Women’s Evening CBS. I am Ann Sanger your Teaching Director. We want to thank Firestone Wesleyan and their congregation for hosting us this year. It is hard to believe we were at Flint Groves for 12 years. We desire to build a genuine community here in our groups and in the study as a whole—one that will be an example of Christian love and caring Pastor Roger will present an Opening next week and welcome you to the church. We covenant with the church to reach the community for Jesus Christ.

You should have received a WELCOME PACKET beginning with a letter from your TD-Ann Sanger, a list Leadership and Administrative team, Names and contacts for the Servant Team. Member Information and a Calendar we will address on later.
It is so wonderful to see this large group of ladies come out in the evening to study God’s Word and further your relationship with Jesus Our Lord. Together with our leadership team we hope you are ready to study God’s Word. Mary Alice McDanal is my Associate Teaching Director. Valerie Payne is our Coordinator; Jean Falls is our Prayer Chairman/Senior Leader. Jean and Mary Alice will also be Substitutes if any Core Leaders are unable to lead a core. Mary Alice will introduce the Core Leaders at the end when we send you to you rooms.

People of all ages—from a variety of backgrounds, and with different levels of Bible knowledge—come to study the Bible and grow in their knowledge and relationship with the living Lord. CBS in Gaston County is blessed to have a variety of CBS classes for all ages.
         Men Class @Ranlo Baptist on Tuesday pm
         Women Day class*Parkwood Baptist on Wednesday am
         Women Evening Class Firestone Wesleyan on Thursday pm
         NEW Co-ed Class *Park Street in Belmont on Sunday pm
  • Two Classes have a Children Ministry
       Women's Day
       Co-ed
  • Newly formed in January of 2014 is a wonderful group for E-Teens @ Flint Groves on Monday pm.
  • There is Prisoner Ministry@Dallas Correctional Center Tues. @ noon
  • CBSI is in 80 countries taught in 60 languages. We will have an Opening later in the year to share about their work
With all these classes across the world it is imperative that we maintain the goals and guidelines of the CBS organization. Your Core leaders will tell you about this when you leave the sanctuary.

There are many new faces to CBS or new to evening CBS. Some of you come straight from work and we in the evening class try to cater to your busy life sharing grace. You will find we are all sisters in Christ and stay true to the Bible, God’s Holy Word.
Show Cover- We are going to guide you through your newly printed books. They arrived just days before our annual training class. What do you notice about the word Community? Yes the small word UNITY which is what we want to create here at CBS. CBS is part of the community but it is not affiliated with any particular church or denomination. Denominational issues will not be discussed or applied as we study. We show grace and understanding to those whose doctrine is different from our own and we strive to make everyone comfortable, cared for and confident.
Here are some ways you can make a difference in CBS:
• Dig deeply into God’s Word.
• Pray for your class.
• Learn more about CBS. Website, request newsletter, FB, contributions

Ladies this slide is for Ann Sanger. I am not gifted in keeping track of my stuff. That’s why I need a team to keep up with my books, keys, phone, iPad, etc. So Please put your names and your core leaders name, #, and email.  You will receive the next volume around Thanksgiving we should begin Revelation in DEC.

CBS-Our mission is to make disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ in our communities through caring, in-depth Bible study, available to all.

Thirtyseven years ago our founder, Lee Campbell, prayerfully and obediently said “yes” to God’s calling and equipping to serve as our first Executive Director.  After Lee’s 21 years of faithful service God called our Camilla Seabolt, to step out in faith and receive the pass of the leadership baton from Lee. Camilla has served faithfully since 1997. Our veteran core members will remember Camilla’s letter was in the front of every book. 

This is our new Executive Director for CBS National: Kimm Carr. She is vibrant and spirit filled and her letter is now in all the books printed by CBS National. Take time to read her letter; it will inspire you.

This is a CBS 4 Step Method-proven effective over time (Illustration- reading  directions for assembling trellis)
         Personal Study
         Core Group Discussion Please do not stay home because you have incomplete questions.
·        Teaching time is my wrap-up or additional comments on the lesson. Those who cannot stay because of your jobs will find my notes on a blog. http://gastoniawomensevecbs.blogspot.com/
         Commentary –I like to read this for my quiet time soon after Thursday’s class. It has wonderful clues to things we may have missed. It has a couple “thinking questions” concerning the core discussion, lecture or commentary. It is easier to answer while it is fresh in your mind.

How many of you sent children or grandchildren back to school recently?
One word that brings dread ~ HOMEWORK.
But Ladies this is going to be the best time of your day. You may have to find the perfect time for you. But it will bless you in ways you cannot imagine. Can I get Amen?
The writers of the lessons have broken it down into 5 days of questions. If you have a tablet or smart phone I recommend you download the ESV version for quick lookup of the numerous Scriptures. As you will soon learn we go from Genesis to Revelation when we study. If you are new to bible study you may not be familiar with all the smaller books in the bible. Some of those minor prophets seem to hide out when the pastor calls for us to lookup Habakkuk or Nahum.
While we encourage you to spend 15 minutes a day in Bible Study. In the beginning just do as much as you can, it may take you a while to figure out what the writers are asking. Your core leader or another member can give you some tips. Please come on even if you were sick or busy or unable to finish. However, we ask that you refrain from answering those questions you did not complete. 
Different type questions –charts; application

Calendar is in your welcome packet. You may want to highlight coffees and dinners. We love to fellowship and desire to form a close knit group capable of sharing. (snow days)WBTV, WSOC

Table of Contents/Do you see number 11-spiritual warfare? Ladies expect difficulty finding time to do your questions and anything can happen on a Thursday to prevent you from coming. Satan will do anything to dishonor Our Father. The enemy does not want us learning his tricks.

Prayer is a must before tackling you study! Put your armor on and get ready for battle. Here is a sample of your lesson 2 for next week. Lesson one is the Commentary. My tip as a school teacher for 33 years is to read all the questions. Sometimes we get so wound up writing the answer we may answer the next 2 or 3 and run out of room on the page.

Mary Alice McDanal will now introduce our Core Leaders and as she calls your names you can follow your leader to your room. You will have only a few minutes to receive you Name Tag, fill in your first page and say “hello” to each other.

Please return to the sanctuary for our wrap-up. 

Monday, May 19, 2014

Colossians Lesson 6 The Lordship of Jesus

Ladies we are so glad you hung in there to the end. At this count we have 35 members registered for next year and will continue to enroll until August 1.  If there are not 60, we will see what national will do. Pray about your commitment to CBS and continue to encourage your friends to come. Our Ice Cream Social/Registration will be Thursday July 17. Mark your calendars. Bookmarks will be available on Sharing Night.
As I looked at the different churches represented in our evening class, I wondered how many of you would be willing to encourage your pastors to invite our Servants Team to come and share with your ladies classes the about the aspects of Community Bible Study. Would you raise your hand if you would be willing to meet with your pastor or ask permission to put a message in the bulletin?
No matter how many ladies  we have registered; we will have a Bible Study next year.  I checked out the Engage Series last year when I attended TD Conference in CO. We were all given a copy of Revelation. It is published by CBS and available thru Amazon.com. However, on the CBS national website I can get them for 25% less when ordered in set of 10 or more. I ordered Daniel on Amazon. It is abbreviated study with a maximum of 21 questions per week, some weeks less than 16 questions. The commentary is only four pages. With less homework and shorter class sessions we could maybe interest those who are overwhelmed with the homework. We ask that you pray with us for God’s will for our Gastonia Evening class.
Jesus is Our LORD, Center our class in Him.

How many of you can hula hoop?   I can hula hoop for approximately 5 seconds. Back in the day, I could keep one around my waist for maybe 5 min.  This photo is an illustration of a woman trying to do too much. Yesterday I was in MARTHA Mode trying to keep a regular routine of Deep Water Aerobics and UVB treatment while trying to accommodate my family obligations to ready dad’s house for sale, getting estimates from contractors, buying paint at Lowe’s, emailing my two younger sisters to get their consensus. Commiserate with a friend, passing on prayer chain, getting my hair cut, picking up my grandson, organizing lunch and dinner with my sister Lynn who is stayed with me Tues and Wed., letting the pets in and out. OVERLOAD.

Raise your hand if you can identify! Think about it and count on your hand 5 things you did yesterday. Turn to your neighbor and take two minutes to share. Give them a high five or a hug!

I wanted a graph to demonstrate what all the hula hoops meant. Finally I just borrowed one. As I worked on my own graph, I didn’t even include sleeping or eating or bathroom time.

It was difficult for me to prioritize my time, all I knew was God had to be first; then husband, children, and grandchildren. But health and exercise has to be a main concern or you won’t have strength for anyone. And what about maintaining the household, paying bills, cleaning and cooking? Then there is Girls Night Out and CBS.
Sometimes we just have to say “no” to hobbies or activities that do not glorify the LORD.

Yesterday Jesus was not glorified with my frustrations to the expectations of others!
Ladies we have to keep the main thing the main thing.

John 12: 43 For they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God. Colossians 3: 17And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Center yourself in Jesus, the Lord you serve. PRAYER

Colossians Lesson 6 The Lordship of Jesus

We are daughters of The King. Paul reminds us we represent our LORD in every earthly relationship and in every word we speak. All are to be centered in Jesus. In every one of our earthly relationships we serve our King, the Lord Jesus.
·        Spiritual Submission
·        Mutual Respect
·        Self Sacrificing Love

18   Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Earlier in my Christian life, SUBMISSION was not my favorite word. In your youth did you ever wrestle a friend or sibling and been made to holler, “Uncle?” Why do we find it so difficult to admit our faults and weaknesses to others? Why do we resist submitting to our husbands or leaders or pastors? Your lesson handled the message of submission in a logical way.
When we realize that Jesus was submissive to His Father will, it has a new meaning.
Philippians 2  Christ Jesus, though he was in the form of God, made himself nothing, taking the human form of a servant, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death on the cross.
Although fully equal to His Father in every way, Jesus willingly submitted to the Father’s plans and purposes in becoming the Savior of the world. So must a wife gladly, willingly, submit to the spiritual headship of her husband. God has established this chain of command for order in the home. But both partners are under Christ as equals.
Jesus is your LORD, Center yourself in Him.

Ruth Bell Graham “It is a foolish woman (and may I add husband who expects their mate) to be that which only Jesus Christ Himself can be: always ready to forgive, totally understanding, unendingly patient, invariably tender and loving, unfailing in every area, anticipating every need, and making more than adequate provision. Such expectations put a marriage under an impossible strain.”

In a television interview with widows of the 911 tragedy one woman described her anger with women who complain about their husbands. The other widows nodded in agreement. “Nothing would make me happier than to walk in the master bathroom and find the toilet seat up.”

Ladies pray that God will give you a widows’ heart. A heart that looks for something to praise instead of something to blame. Maybe your husband is not perfect, but I’m sure he is a good man. Focus on the positive not the negative.
We must center ourselves in Jesus so our identity is in Him, not in another.
Philippians 4:8 tells us whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
·        Mutual Respect
There are no men here tonight so I will not elaborate on this section.
19Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.
As the Father loved His Son (John 10:17), so the husband is to love his wife “just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).
Ephesians 5 33 … let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self -Amp
As I listened to the radio broadcast of a Marriage Conference at the Broadmoor in Colorado Springs, the speaker talked to single women. The Bible talks of the husband being the spiritual leader of the home. If you cannot respect the man you are dating, if you cannot follow him in spiritual matters, do not marry him. Because once he is your husband, without qualifications of his morality, the Bible commands you to respect him. In this role the husband has a great responsibility and will be accountable to God for the spiritual health of his family. Pray wisely before seeking a mate.
However, you are serving the Lord. Center yourself in Jesus;

Self-Sacrificing Love
20Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
21Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
Even as head of the household, mother can help her husband with parenting issue. I don’t know how many saw the episode of the father/coach kicking his 6 year old son down a skate boarding ramp in Florida. Parenting tries our patience. Coaching your own son doubly so. Ideally a mother’s love for her child is a protective covering.
 Greater still is the self-sacrificing love of a grandparent. Seriously when my friend told me how much more love you were capable of with a grandchild, I could not understand that greater love until I had my first grandson.  But the greatest love is your heavenly Father loves you so much he sent His only son to die in your place. Make Him the center of your life.
Tender Names God has for His Children
o   A People Holy to myself- Deuteronomy 28:9
o   My Beloved Isaiah 6:1
o   Chosen - John 15:16
o   Saint - Romans 8:27
o   My People- Roman 9:25
o   Daughter-2 Corinthians 6:18
o   Masterpiece- Ephesians 2:10 
o   A chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation,  a people for his own possession 1 Peter 2:9
o   Child of God- 1 John 3:1
o   The Bride- Revelation 19:7 Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready
o    My treasured possession- Exodus 19:5
Finally, here is a message to your son and daughters: A teenager was grumbling because her parents would not let her see a certain movie. They told her “That is not who you are!”  As she complained to her neighbor who was making chocolate covered cherries, Robin asked if Natalie wanted a taste.
Natalie said “I thought you were making them for someone special!”
Robin replied, “I am, you!” But when Robin offered them on a dirty stained paper plate, the young girl was shocked and said, “Don’t you have anything else to put them on?”
 “Oh yes, I have special dishes set apart from all the others.” As Robin retrieved a special plate edged in gold she said, “These are valuable and so special I keep them in my China Cabinet. I protect them from harm so they are available for me to use to serve others.”
“Your parents see you as being valuable, beautiful and worth protecting like this china plate.”
As Natalie ate her candy off the china plate, now she understood why her parents were so overprotective. Robin Gunn Spoken For
Make sure you sons and daughters know they are God’s treasured possessions, set apart, sanctified for His special use.
2 Timothy 2:21 Living Bible (TLB)” If you stay away from sin you will be like one of these dishes made of purest gold—the very best in the house—so that Christ himself can use you for his highest purposes.”
Colossians 3:23-24 Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.
Hebrews 12 17 Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account,
Choosing to submit one to another, to love with sacrificial love, and to obey those in authority over us, just as Jesus did, conforms us to the image of Christ. Choosing to work at our tasks wholeheartedly, knowing that we are working for the Lord, lifts up Jesus and pleases God. This gives noble purpose to ordinary tasks.

 Center yourself in Jesus; you are serving the Lord

SLIDE 15 One of my favorite verses in this lesson; one I need on my wall and car visor. Maybe in my phone case!!!
Colossians 4:6 Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.
Ladies, I confess this is my greatest need. I ask for your prayers in this area of my life: at home, as the teacher of CBS, working in the church, driving, in the mall, with Tech support on the phone! Forgive me, Lord Jesus, with telephone support for insurance companies and Medicare. Can I get an AMEN!
Are you willing to make Jesus your Lord and center of your life?
PRAY Lord season my words so my speech is always gracious, expressing love to others as you daughter. As Lord of our lives, lead us through the days with our focus on you, seeking your will. In Jesus blessed name.

 Ladies we are so glad you hung in there to the end. At this count we have 35 members registered for next year and will continue to enroll until August 1.  If there are not 60, we will see what national will do. Pray about your commitment to CBS and continue to encourage your friends to come. Our Ice Cream Social/Registration will be Thursday July 17. Mark your calendars. Bookmarks will be available on Sharing Night.
As I looked at the different churches represented in our evening class, I wondered how many of you would be willing to encourage your pastors to invite our Servants Team to come and share with your ladies classes the about the aspects of Community Bible Study. Would you raise your hand if you would be willing to meet with your pastor or ask permission to put a message in the bulletin?
No matter how many ladies  we have registered; we will have a Bible Study next year.  I checked out the Engage Series last year when I attended TD Conference in CO. We were all given a copy of Revelation. It is published by CBS and available thru Amazon.com. However, on the CBS national website I can get them for 25% less when ordered in set of 10 or more. I ordered Daniel on Amazon. It is abbreviated study with a maximum of 21 questions per week, some weeks less than 16 questions. The commentary is only four pages. With less homework and shorter class sessions we could maybe interest those who are overwhelmed with the homework. We ask that you pray with us for God’s will for our Gastonia Evening class.
Jesus is Our LORD, Center our class in Him.

How many of you can hula hoop?   I can hula hoop for approximately 5 seconds. Back in the day, I could keep one around my waist for maybe 5 min.  This photo is an illustration of a woman trying to do too much. Yesterday I was in MARTHA Mode trying to keep a regular routine of Deep Water Aerobics and UVB treatment while trying to accommodate my family obligations to ready dad’s house for sale, getting estimates from contractors, buying paint at Lowe’s, emailing my two younger sisters to get their consensus. Commiserate with a friend, passing on prayer chain, getting my hair cut, picking up my grandson, organizing lunch and dinner with my sister Lynn who is stayed with me Tues and Wed., letting the pets in and out. OVERLOAD.

Raise your hand if you can identify! Think about it and count on your hand 5 things you did yesterday. Turn to your neighbor and take two minutes to share. Give them a high five or a hug!

I wanted a graph to demonstrate what all the hula hoops meant. Finally I just borrowed one. As I worked on my own graph, I didn’t even include sleeping or eating or bathroom time.

It was difficult for me to prioritize my time, all I knew was God had to be first; then husband, children, and grandchildren. But health and exercise has to be a main concern or you won’t have strength for anyone. And what about maintaining the household, paying bills, cleaning and cooking? Then there is Girls Night Out and CBS.
Sometimes we just have to say “no” to hobbies or activities that do not glorify the LORD.

Yesterday Jesus was not glorified with my frustrations to the expectations of others!
Ladies we have to keep the main thing the main thing.

John 12: 43 For they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God. Colossians 3: 17And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Center yourself in Jesus, the Lord you serve. PRAYER

Colossians Lesson 6 The Lordship of Jesus

We are daughters of The King. Paul reminds us we represent our LORD in every earthly relationship and in every word we speak. All are to be centered in Jesus. In every one of our earthly relationships we serve our King, the Lord Jesus.
·        Spiritual Submission
·        Mutual Respect
·        Self Sacrificing Love

18   Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Earlier in my Christian life, SUBMISSION was not my favorite word. In your youth did you ever wrestle a friend or sibling and been made to holler, “Uncle?” Why do we find it so difficult to admit our faults and weaknesses to others? Why do we resist submitting to our husbands or leaders or pastors? Your lesson handled the message of submission in a logical way.
When we realize that Jesus was submissive to His Father will, it has a new meaning.
Philippians 2  Christ Jesus, though he was in the form of God, made himself nothing, taking the human form of a servant, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death on the cross.
Although fully equal to His Father in every way, Jesus willingly submitted to the Father’s plans and purposes in becoming the Savior of the world. So must a wife gladly, willingly, submit to the spiritual headship of her husband. God has established this chain of command for order in the home. But both partners are under Christ as equals.
Jesus is your LORD, Center yourself in Him.

Ruth Bell Graham “It is a foolish woman (and may I add husband who expects their mate) to be that which only Jesus Christ Himself can be: always ready to forgive, totally understanding, unendingly patient, invariably tender and loving, unfailing in every area, anticipating every need, and making more than adequate provision. Such expectations put a marriage under an impossible strain.”

In a television interview with widows of the 911 tragedy one woman described her anger with women who complain about their husbands. The other widows nodded in agreement. “Nothing would make me happier than to walk in the master bathroom and find the toilet seat up.”

Ladies pray that God will give you a widows’ heart. A heart that looks for something to praise instead of something to blame. Maybe your husband is not perfect, but I’m sure he is a good man. Focus on the positive not the negative.
We must center ourselves in Jesus so our identity is in Him, not in another.
Philippians 4:8 tells us whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
·        Mutual Respect
There are no men here tonight so I will not elaborate on this section.
19Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.
As the Father loved His Son (John 10:17), so the husband is to love his wife “just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).
Ephesians 5 33 … let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self -Amp
As I listened to the radio broadcast of a Marriage Conference at the Broadmoor in Colorado Springs, the speaker talked to single women. The Bible talks of the husband being the spiritual leader of the home. If you cannot respect the man you are dating, if you cannot follow him in spiritual matters, do not marry him. Because once he is your husband, without qualifications of his morality, the Bible commands you to respect him. In this role the husband has a great responsibility and will be accountable to God for the spiritual health of his family. Pray wisely before seeking a mate.
However, you are serving the Lord. Center yourself in Jesus;

Self-Sacrificing Love
20Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
21Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
Even as head of the household, mother can help her husband with parenting issue. I don’t know how many saw the episode of the father/coach kicking his 6 year old son down a skate boarding ramp in Florida. Parenting tries our patience. Coaching your own son doubly so. Ideally a mother’s love for her child is a protective covering.
 Greater still is the self-sacrificing love of a grandparent. Seriously when my friend told me how much more love you were capable of with a grandchild, I could not understand that greater love until I had my first grandson.  But the greatest love is your heavenly Father loves you so much he sent His only son to die in your place. Make Him the center of your life.
Tender Names God has for His Children
o   A People Holy to myself- Deuteronomy 28:9
o   My Beloved Isaiah 6:1
o   Chosen - John 15:16
o   Saint - Romans 8:27
o   My People- Roman 9:25
o   Daughter-2 Corinthians 6:18
o   Masterpiece- Ephesians 2:10 
o   A chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation,  a people for his own possession 1 Peter 2:9
o   Child of God- 1 John 3:1
o   The Bride- Revelation 19:7 Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready
o    My treasured possession- Exodus 19:5
Finally, here is a message to your son and daughters: A teenager was grumbling because her parents would not let her see a certain movie. They told her “That is not who you are!”  As she complained to her neighbor who was making chocolate covered cherries, Robin asked if Natalie wanted a taste.
Natalie said “I thought you were making them for someone special!”
Robin replied, “I am, you!” But when Robin offered them on a dirty stained paper plate, the young girl was shocked and said, “Don’t you have anything else to put them on?”
 “Oh yes, I have special dishes set apart from all the others.” As Robin retrieved a special plate edged in gold she said, “These are valuable and so special I keep them in my China Cabinet. I protect them from harm so they are available for me to use to serve others.”
“Your parents see you as being valuable, beautiful and worth protecting like this china plate.”
As Natalie ate her candy off the china plate, now she understood why her parents were so overprotective. Robin Gunn Spoken For
Make sure you sons and daughters know they are God’s treasured possessions, set apart, sanctified for His special use.
2 Timothy 2:21 Living Bible (TLB)” If you stay away from sin you will be like one of these dishes made of purest gold—the very best in the house—so that Christ himself can use you for his highest purposes.”
Colossians 3:23-24 Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.
Hebrews 12 17 Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account,
Choosing to submit one to another, to love with sacrificial love, and to obey those in authority over us, just as Jesus did, conforms us to the image of Christ. Choosing to work at our tasks wholeheartedly, knowing that we are working for the Lord, lifts up Jesus and pleases God. This gives noble purpose to ordinary tasks.

 Center yourself in Jesus; you are serving the Lord

One of my favorite verses in this lesson; one I need on my wall and car visor. Maybe in my phone case!!!
Colossians 4:6 Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.
Ladies, I confess this is my greatest need. I ask for your prayers in this area of my life: at home, as the teacher of CBS, working in the church, driving, in the mall, with Tech support on the phone! Forgive me, Lord Jesus, with telephone support for insurance companies and Medicare. Can I get an AMEN!
Are you willing to make Jesus your Lord and center of your life?
PRAY Lord season my words so my speech is always gracious, expressing love to others as you daughter. As Lord of our lives, lead us through the days with our focus on you, seeking your will. In Jesus blessed name.